The holidays are approaching - but things already feel very different! Everyone is being told to "isolate and stay home". Or "only have immediate family over to visit".
The stress this year is everywhere. A lot of people don't even want to think about the holidays because everything is up in the air. Who knows what we will be allowed to do by Thanksgiving.
But trying to keep things as "normal" as possible - which is really hard right now - is important. Not only for the adults - but the children. We all need something to look forward to.
The holiday gatherings might be small - but you can still make them special by making your favorite foods. Don't let the state of the world ruin your holidays.
Turkey and stuffing are what make the holiday special. So go ahead and plan a great dinner and try to forget the outside world for a few short hours.
Take a deep breath. And let's get through one holiday at a time.
Re-read this Thanksgiving article that will give you a STEP by STEP way to have a STRESS FREE Thanksgiving!
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Thanksgiving - Organized
and Stress Free - Yes, It is Possible
Yes, “Organized“, “Stress Free” and “Thanksgiving” can be used in the same
sentence.
It all starts with the word “organized”. Don’t let it scare you. Embrace it.
By being organized and planning ahead you can actually enjoy a holiday.
Start by deciding on what you want your holiday to be like. Do you really
want to serve a sit down dinner for twenty (20) people? Or would a buffet be
acceptable for you? Would it be acceptable for your “family”?
The pressure of trying to please everyone, especially parents and doing
things “exactly” like when you were little and everything was perfect is how
the “stress” starts.
It’s your house and your dinner party. You can start new traditions. I
didn’t say that it would be easy or that you wouldn’t get some flack, but all
“traditions” started somewhere. Make your own. You deserve some happiness.
If you really want a fancy sit down dinner party but twenty (20) people is
too much for you to handle then cut the guest list down.
If you really want all twenty (20) people there then maybe you should
consider a buffet. It’s much easier and your family will eventually come to
terms with the fact that maybe you aren’t serving a formal sit down dinner, but
the food is just as good.
You can make Thanksgiving as simple or as complicated as you want….it all
depends on how organized you are willing to be.
A good way to keep the stress levels down is to divide and conquer.
Enlist your family for help. Don’t take “no” for an answer. This is your
holiday too and you have a right to enjoy it. And we all know that old saying “if Mom isn’t happy, no one is happy”.
Start at least two (2) or three (3) weeks before Thanksgiving.
Decide on the type of gathering (formal or informal), the size of the guest
list and the menu.
Don’t attempt to make something new for dinner or try out a new dessert that
day. It could turn out to be a disaster and that would cause you more stress.
If you really want to try a new dish….test it out prior to Thanksgiving.
Menu: Do you really want to serve cranberry relish and sweet potato’s
even if you don’t like them and only serve them because “they are always served
at Thanksgiving”?
Make up your own menu (yes, it is radical). Serve something
different. Serve something you like!
If you are having a small Thanksgiving dinner don’t feel obligated to serve
Turkey. I know, blasphemy! I once made stuffed Cornish Hen. It was wonderful
and just as delicious as turkey. You can also stuff a small chicken or even a
duck! Or be really different and have Ham! The possibilities are endless.
Start new traditions! It’s not easy to buck the system but once you
make up your mind that you deserve to be happy and stress free on a Holiday you
will wonder why you waited so long.
Remember, the whole point of a Holiday is family and friends and spending
“quality” time together.
Everything does not have to be perfect. Be thankful
for what you have and not for what you don’t.
A great piece of advice: don’t attempt to clean your oven Thanksgiving
morning before you put in the turkey. I did that once, years ago in my
new house, when I was young and anxious to please. I then found out that after
the oven is cleaned it needs to cool down and the oven will stay locked for
another hour or so after it’s done. And you can’t open it! It certainly put a
dent into my dinner timetable!
By starting early and making lists and getting as much done ahead of time you will avoid a lot of stress.
Once you have your menu planned work backwards and make up a timetable to
what needs to be done.
For example: if you want your dinner to be served at 6
p.m., what time do you have to put the turkey into the oven? What time do the
potato’s and vegetables need to be started? Just make a list and put it
on your refrigerator door so that you don’t have to second guess yourself and
aren’t panicking at the last minute.
When your family or guests start to arrive your mind and attention will be
elsewhere….so a list can help you stay on track. Don’t leave anything to
chance.
A few days before Thanksgiving:
* Shop for all of the essentials, including as much of the food as can be
purchased ahead of time
* Make sure that you have enough spices and things that you will need for
the food (and rarely buy)
* Do any of the baking or make any desserts that can be made ahead of time
* Thaw the turkey (the size will determine how many days it takes to thaw in
the refrigerator)
* Buy the wine or any beverages
The day before Thanksgiving:
* Buy any last minute items at the grocery store
* Chop anything that can be chopped ahead of time (vegetables, bread for
stuff…but do not stuff the turkey ahead of time) and put them in plastic bags
so that you will be all ready to go the next day
* Make sure you have enough ice
* Prepare any of the food items that can be made ahead of time
* Make your family aware of exactly what you need them to help you with on
Thanksgiving.
* Having assigned tasks for your kids and spouse ahead of time takes away
some of the stress of what’s expected of them the next day.
The night before Thanksgiving:
* Set the table and get out all of your platters and serving dishes.
* Make sure that you have enough dishes and silverware. If you don’t, now is
the time to call one of your guests and ask to borrow something. Don’t wait
until the last minute to find out that you broke the gravy boat last
Thanksgiving and never replaced it.
When I entertain I love to use all of my special platters and dishes. I love
to fuss over my family and I love to set a very special table. I don’t consider
it extra work or a hardship or stressful. It’s my way of telling my family and
friends just how special they are.
But again…..the Holiday and family and friends are what’s important….not the
china or the food. So if you aren’t the type of person to pull off a sit down
dinner with all the decorations - don’t beat yourself up. There are only so many
Martha Stewart's around. And she has a staff to help her!
Thanksgiving Day:
* Wake up early so that you can have some “you” time to have coffee and
relax before
the day starts (it will get stressful enough later, so the morning might be
the only time you have)
* Read over your lists and timetable
* Gather all of your food and cooking utensils, pots and pans ....
* Measure out everything that you can ahead of time and set it aside
* Follow your time table and start making the food according to the schedule
* Once the food comes out of the oven let it rest a while (you can cover it
with foil)
* Start cutting the meat and plating the food
* Have family members start their assigned tasks (setting out and serving
food, pouring the drinks…)
ENJOY your meal…… sit and talk…..
After the meal:
Have a plan in place to clear the table. Since I always make a ton of extra
food so that my guests can take home leftovers I start with portioning the
leftovers into plastic containers and putting each family’s containers into a
plastic bag and setting it near the door so that they don’t forget them.
Once I have the leftovers divided up and mine put away in the refrigerator
and freezer I then start to collect the rest of the dishes and put them into
the dishwasher. I don’t start the dishwasher until after they leave so that we
won’t be bothered with the noise.
Again, this is where your family members can jump in and help clear and
stack dishes. It makes quick work of things when you have other people help.
I need to have as many things cleared up and put away as possible before I
start serving dessert. This also gives everyone time to rest and relax before
they start eating again.
Some people like to leave the dishes and the mess until the next day. And
sometimes I wish I could too, but it’s worse the next day when you get up and
walk into a mess. I’d rather get it done and over with.
Make quick work of it (or as much as will fit into the dishwasher) and then
sit and relax and spend time with your family.
Remember, a Holiday is supposed to be enjoyable. If it’s not, figure out why
it isn’t and change it. Skip the big complicated meal, the fancy desserts and
the good china and make it as simple as you are able to handle.
Start your own tradition….and make it about family!
Happy Holiday !
