This COVID-19 crisis has radically changed our
lives. Just a few months ago, we had no idea our 'world' would be confined to
our homes!
This crisis is a powerful reminder of how important
freedom is - and how much we need human connection!
Remember you are not alone. Because what is
DIFFERENT here is that everyone is impacted! Your neighbor, mom, boss and
friends as well as your counterparts around the world are all going through
something similar.
So, it's important to remember:
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. Viktor E. Frankl
This is the challenge each of us must rise to! If
we're going to be stuck at home, we may as well make the most of it.
Here
Are Some Things You Can do to Make Your Life Better while Physically Isolated:
1) Gain a New Skill with Online Learning:
There are so many opportunities online to gain a
new skill and they're growing by the day!
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Grow your personal or creative skills or choose a
new skill to learn and take back to work with online training providers like Coursera or Udemy.
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There are many other providers.
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If there's a skill you always wanted to learn,
search for it. But be sure to read the course descriptions thoroughly, check
reviews if there are any - and check money-back guarantees as you need to!
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And with so many learning options ranging from FREE
to tens of dollars to the low hundreds of dollars, there will be something out
there just perfect for you.
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2)
Explore your Life Vision:
Rather than watching endless news streams, you can
choose to focus on a bigger picture - your future. What do you want from the
rest of your life? What would you be disappointed you did NOT do? Where do you
envision yourself in 10 years?
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Having a clear vision of how you want your
life to be is a powerful motivator. A vision helps us work towards our goals,
take action and make change. Soon, we'll all be super-busy again - and a vision
might be just what you need stay focused!
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Here are 5 questions to ponder or journal around to
go deeper:
- What do you desire or yearn for in your life?
- How do you want to feel?
- What do you really, really want to be different in your life?
- What would have happened in 3 years time such that your life is
spectacular and you feel magnificent about yourself?
- What's your dream for this lifetime? Imagine you're 90 years old
and looking back over your life; what did you do that made you proud and
happy?
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TIP: Remember to think possibility not
probability! Don't limit yourself and your ideas because you don't believe
something is likely. Instead believe it's possible - and even if you don't get
all the way there, you may get close - or even find something better along the
way!
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3)
Be in the moment:
In THIS moment you are OK. You are safe. Take one day at a time. One hour or even one breath at a time if you need to.
This tip is about being super-present, not thinking
ahead or remembering the past, but practicing BEING.
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This is a PRACTICE - meaning you will have to do it
over and over again - bringing yourself back to the NOW. Over time it gets
easier, and it's a great skill to have to take back to "normal" life.
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So, when you notice you're worrying, feeling
twitchy and want to pick up your device and find out what the
"latest" is about the COVID situation, say to yourself, "It's
OK. In this moment, I am safe. In this moment I am OK." You can also
add or say, "In this moment, my children/husband/family are safe."
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EXTRA TIP: Reduce or minimise how often you watch
and read the news! And DON'T read or watch the news (or articles about COVID-19
or similar) just before bed!
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4)
Laugh
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Distracting ourselves from our fears is a valid
technique for feeling better!
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Laughter releases helpful chemicals in our
bloodstream - Endorphins (our natural "happy" drug) and Dopamine
(part of our bodily "reward" system).
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- What are your favorite comedy shows?
- Is there a comedian you like?
- Netflix and similar have so many watching options, so find
something that makes you laugh!
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IMPORTANT: We should NOT use over-use laughter as a
distraction technique. And it shouldn't be used for ongoing and persistent
fears in regular life. But for a situation like this, where this isn't much
that any of us can do other than sit and wait - distraction can be a great
coping mechanism.
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5)
Be Kind!
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Kindness and compassion are one of the most
powerful tools any of us have in our toolbox right now. Many of us are largely
housebound, never mind the fear that you or a loved on might actually catch the
COVID virus! So, of course we're going to feel unpleasant and weird.
- Use kindness to comfort yourself when afraid or feeling anxious or
fidgety. Be gentle. Imagine you're soothing a friend, small child or animal
who is afraid - what would you say to them? Then say that to yourself!
- Use kindness to give yourself - and others - the benefit or the
doubt. Instead of getting upset when you see other people behaving badly,
remember that we all do silly things when we're scared.
- Imagine you have a kind, wise self. A part of you that is
unflappable, intelligent and unconditionally loves ALL of you. Now, when
you need it, imagine that kind, wise self is with you, supporting you,
maybe giving you a hug - and saying exactly what you need to hear (not
just the sugary stuff, but also the tough love and common sense).
6)
Help Others
Helping others is empowering and makes us
feel better. Here are a few ways you could help others.
- Check in on a neighbour or friend and see if they need anything.
You can do this by phone, or in person, remembering to maintain a 6 feet
distance.
- Offer to get someone groceries if you're going.
- Help someone less technically savvy learn how to use Zoom or
WhatsApp or whatever they need to get online.
- Host a virtual get-together with your regular friends.
- Reconnect more deeply with friends or relatives who have moved
away.
7)
Live Your Values
When we know your values, we understand what
motivates and drives us. When we build our lives around our values, we create a
life that is meaningful. Finally, when we align our actions with our
values - we're being truly authentic. It's a very satisfying and fulfilling way
to live.
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And living your values could be the single most
important thing any of us can do right now.Here's an exercise you can do:
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- List your values on a piece of paper or in your journal.
- Give each value a score ___ / 10 as to how well you are living that
value in your life now (where 0 is not at all and 10 is full-out).
- For the scores that are 8 or more - great!
- For the scores that are 7 or less out of 10, ask yourself,
"How could I express this value more in my life right now?"
"What could I do differently or approach differently, so that I feel
good about how I live this value in my life?"
For example: You have a value of creativity, but you're only managing to "go through the motions" right now and your score is 4/10. Ask yourself how you could be more creative during this time - whether it's cooking, gardening, are or writing or helping your kids do something creative, or even watching a documentary about someone creative you admire.
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For a copy of a Sample Values List – just send us
an email with “Sample Values List” in the
subject line and we will send you a copy of our list to help you with this exercise.
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8)
De-Clutter
I bet you have some organizational things on your
to-do list (like going through winter clothes, sorting out toys to donate or
tidying the laundry closet, garage or shed) that have been on there for a
while. Use this isolation period to get them done!
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Getting organized and de-cluttering allows us to
exert some control over our lives - and therefore feel less helpless! Plus, it
will feel amazing just to have it done.
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Organize your closets, your garage, your books,
your photos, office, kitchen equipment. Whatever needs organizing. Or perhaps
you need to go through your receipts or file your taxes!
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A simple 3 Step Method to go through your stuff:
- If you're keeping it, be sure to DECIDE where it will
"live" from now on.
- If you're not keeping it, create two piles:
- Things to GET RID OF
- Things to DONATE (and if relevant to pass on to specific people).
- When you're done, put each pile into bags or boxes, and then once
this crisis is over you can get rid of what you no longer need.
- TIP: You don't need to do any of this 'in one sitting', do an hour
a day - you'll be surprised how much you get done if you keep it up for a
week!
**** As a
special gift to you – Organizational Consulting Services is offering $ 10/hr OFF of their Virtual Organizing services now
through the end of May.
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9)
Grow Something - Or Get an Indoor Flowering Plant!
There is nothing quite like growing something -
whether it's flowers, fruits or vegetables that makes us feel good! Even if you
live in an apartment and you could grow fresh herbs on your windowsill or
balcony to cook with!
- Get some seeds, (a pot and some soil if needed) and get started.
- Many plant nurseries are still open, or you could order seeds etc.
online.
- Follow the instructions - and remember to water it!
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If growing something is just too much work, get
yourself a spring bulb or succulent (cacti) planter.
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It is really important to take care of yourself
during this stressful time. To find out
where you are in the process and what you might need to change – I have created
a “Self-Care Check-In” sheet that you can use to help you connect with yourself
and find out what you may be needing.
If you would like a copy of “My Self-Care Check-In”
– send me an email with “Self-Care Check-In” in
the subject line and I will send you a copy.
Believe you have the skills and power to tackle
this situation and you will! Choose to make the best of a difficult situation
and no matter what - you'll find a way.
This current and strange COVID-19 situation will
end. And when it does, you'll be proud you made the effort to learn something -
whether it's about yourself, fresh knowledge, a new skill - and who knows what
else!
*** If you are interested in a FREE Discovery Coaching Session to help you figure out
what your next step will be – just email or fill out the contact form on our
website.
Karin E. Fried, CPC, EMT-B, CTACC
Certified Life
& Business Coach
North By
Northwest
Pointing you in the Right Direction for your
Life
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