A lot of people are intimidated by what other people think. They think their house should look a certain way because other people have told them that "you should clean this" or "you should get rid of that". They get overwhelmed by everyone telling them what "should" bother them and how they "should" clean up their home. So they do "nothing". It's a lot easier than not doing what they "should" do.
I'm sure we all have "well meaning" family and friends who try to "help" you by giving you unsolicited advice on how to take care of your home. But what they don't realize is that they are actually doing more harm than good.
People don't want to be told what to do. They want to make their own decisions. They want to have control over their home and their life. They don't want to be told what they "should do" or "should feel" about their home.
So it's a mess. O.K. We acknowledge that it's a mess. Why does it concern anyone else? All it does is make people "not" want to clean because they don't want to be told what to do. It's basic psychology.
Everyone has their own tolerance of "enough". And when it's dirty enough or disorganized beyond what they can tolerate any longer, they will "clean" and "organize" the space.
People have to "be ready" and "want" to change. You can't "force the issue".
So when something "bothers" you enough that you want to change.... you will.
But only when you are ready.
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Monday, July 2, 2012
Monday, June 25, 2012
TO DO LISTS
Some people love to make "TO DO" lists. But some of those list makers just make lists and never actually "DO" anything on the lists.
Making lists makes those people feel like they have accomplished things - but they really haven't.
Writing things down is a pretty powerful tool. It makes things "real". But you have to actually "DO" what's on the list to be able to say that "you accomplished something".
This might sound silly and very "basic" to a lot of people - but I have run across many people that never get past "the list".
So step back and ask yourself - "are you ever really going to (accomplish this task)"? If you really know you have no intention of completing the task - or really don't have the time - Don't put it on the "TO DO" LIST.
Maybe you could make a "I'll have someone else do it" list!
Being honest with yourself (and your spouse) will save you a lot of time and aggravation. And it will make your list a lot shorter.
Remember - after you write it down - the next step is "DOING IT"!
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Making lists makes those people feel like they have accomplished things - but they really haven't.
Writing things down is a pretty powerful tool. It makes things "real". But you have to actually "DO" what's on the list to be able to say that "you accomplished something".
This might sound silly and very "basic" to a lot of people - but I have run across many people that never get past "the list".
So step back and ask yourself - "are you ever really going to (accomplish this task)"? If you really know you have no intention of completing the task - or really don't have the time - Don't put it on the "TO DO" LIST.
Maybe you could make a "I'll have someone else do it" list!
Being honest with yourself (and your spouse) will save you a lot of time and aggravation. And it will make your list a lot shorter.
Remember - after you write it down - the next step is "DOING IT"!
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Monday, June 11, 2012
Organizing Your Life
People seem to think of organizing as something that you do to "things", but you can also "organize your life". Just like having an organized room, having an organized life definitely reduces your stress.
You don't have to go overboard and have every detail of your personal life organized and outlined in your "Franklin Planner", but by knowing what you are going to do and what you have to accomplish you will be more productive and less stressed. If you want to have a great weekend or a great vacation they need to be planned out. If you want to have a great "date" it needs to be planned out.
By taking charge of your life and treating it as something that is just as important as your job and by giving it the same thought and careful planning, you will function better and there will be fewer "surprises".
Planning and organizing your life instead of leaving it to chance also means that you are in better control of our finances, which in turn helps to alleviate stress.
So take some time for yourself and think about how in control you are of your life. Write down all of the things that you feel you are "not in control of". Number them in order of importance. Then write down some ideas on how you might want to change those things.
It can be as simple as coming up with a calendar that everyone in your family uses so that you know what everyone is doing. Or scheduling extra travel time for your appointments so that you aren't always running late and getting stressed. Or taking some things off of your schedule so that you aren't over scheduled and have more time for your family.
You can also think about re-organizing some of your routines to make your day run smoother. Things such as "getting your next days clothes ready the night before". This gives you more time in the morning and reduces your stress in having to make decisions while everyone is trying to get out of the door.
Or how about making a list of all of the errands that you have to do during the week and planning your trips so that you aren't backtracking from one side of town to the other.
There are a lot of ways that you can "organize your life" and make your life run smoother. Just take it one step at a time and you will soon be on your way to a "more organized you".
Happy Organizing !
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You don't have to go overboard and have every detail of your personal life organized and outlined in your "Franklin Planner", but by knowing what you are going to do and what you have to accomplish you will be more productive and less stressed. If you want to have a great weekend or a great vacation they need to be planned out. If you want to have a great "date" it needs to be planned out.
By taking charge of your life and treating it as something that is just as important as your job and by giving it the same thought and careful planning, you will function better and there will be fewer "surprises".
Planning and organizing your life instead of leaving it to chance also means that you are in better control of our finances, which in turn helps to alleviate stress.
So take some time for yourself and think about how in control you are of your life. Write down all of the things that you feel you are "not in control of". Number them in order of importance. Then write down some ideas on how you might want to change those things.
It can be as simple as coming up with a calendar that everyone in your family uses so that you know what everyone is doing. Or scheduling extra travel time for your appointments so that you aren't always running late and getting stressed. Or taking some things off of your schedule so that you aren't over scheduled and have more time for your family.
You can also think about re-organizing some of your routines to make your day run smoother. Things such as "getting your next days clothes ready the night before". This gives you more time in the morning and reduces your stress in having to make decisions while everyone is trying to get out of the door.
Or how about making a list of all of the errands that you have to do during the week and planning your trips so that you aren't backtracking from one side of town to the other.
There are a lot of ways that you can "organize your life" and make your life run smoother. Just take it one step at a time and you will soon be on your way to a "more organized you".
Happy Organizing !
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Monday, June 4, 2012
End of School Organizing
School is about to end for most schools. Kids will be cleaning out their lockers and bringing home - well, lots of stuff! Maybe even stuff that you didn't know that you were missing - like Tupperware!
They will also be bringing home lots of papers and other things that they have cleared out of their lockers, maybe even some clothes. If they are like most kids they will probably just dump it all in the hallway where they came in. And drive you nuts in the process.
So before you get too far into the summer take some time to organize the mess. And if you can, make the kids help. It is their mess after all!
First, throw out all of the garbage.
Second, take back your Tupperware, dishes, silverware...
Third, grab those clothes and throw them in the laundry. After they are clean, decide if they still fit or might still fit by the start of the next school year. Otherwise, into the "donate pile" they go.
Fourth, go through their papers and decide which ones you want to keep (things such as Art work or other papers you really want to keep). You might want to dispose of the other papers when the kids are not around. If you have a folder/box or notebook for each child you can put anything you want to save into their file (by grade).
Fifth, any extra school supplies that can be used for the next year can be put away in a bag and you will have a head start on shopping for the next school year. Be sure to keep a list of what you already have so that you don't buy duplicate when you get the rest of their school supplies.
Sixth, check the condition of their backpack and lunch box and toss it or put it away for next year (after a thorough cleaning of course!).
The mess is now gone and you can get on with our summer!
Have a great summer!
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They will also be bringing home lots of papers and other things that they have cleared out of their lockers, maybe even some clothes. If they are like most kids they will probably just dump it all in the hallway where they came in. And drive you nuts in the process.
So before you get too far into the summer take some time to organize the mess. And if you can, make the kids help. It is their mess after all!
First, throw out all of the garbage.
Second, take back your Tupperware, dishes, silverware...
Third, grab those clothes and throw them in the laundry. After they are clean, decide if they still fit or might still fit by the start of the next school year. Otherwise, into the "donate pile" they go.
Fourth, go through their papers and decide which ones you want to keep (things such as Art work or other papers you really want to keep). You might want to dispose of the other papers when the kids are not around. If you have a folder/box or notebook for each child you can put anything you want to save into their file (by grade).
Fifth, any extra school supplies that can be used for the next year can be put away in a bag and you will have a head start on shopping for the next school year. Be sure to keep a list of what you already have so that you don't buy duplicate when you get the rest of their school supplies.
Sixth, check the condition of their backpack and lunch box and toss it or put it away for next year (after a thorough cleaning of course!).
The mess is now gone and you can get on with our summer!
Have a great summer!
Organizational Consulting Services
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Monday, May 28, 2012
Seniors - Getting Ready To Downsize - Start De-Cluttering Now
As your children grow up and move out of your home and as people age they start thinking about downsizing. They don't need a big house, they don't want do to all of the housework and yard work anymore.
Why not start thinking about it years before you are ready? That way there is no rush, no pressure.
If you give yourself plenty of time you can make the decisions about your belongings at your own pace instead of having to decide what to get rid of as the moving truck is pulling up.
The first and most important part of any move and downsizing is the decluttering. Start going through each of your rooms and decide what you can get rid of.
And of course, that means, donate or give away (for the most part). If you haven't used it or don't want to take it with you, put it in the "donate" box.
One thing that you will also want to start thinking about is the size of your new home. If you have a four bedroom home now and want to downsize to a one or two bedroom home you will have a lot of things to get rid of.
Don't think that you have to get rid of the entire extra room. You can pick or choose pieces from each room that will go into your new home. Only take the things that you really love or that are functional.
Start thinking about giving away things to your loved ones now, when they can enjoy them. Why wait until after you are gone so that you won't be able to share in their happiness? It might sound morbid, but it makes sense. You know that you love to see the look on their faces when you give them presents for their birthdays or holidays.
By taking control of your own decluttering now, when you are not in a rush, you will be much calmer and more rational. Trust me, moving is not a fun process. Take the stress out of it by planning ahead and decluttering on your terms.
For many children that live away from their elderly parents it sometimes helps to have someone, such as a Professional Organizer help with this transition. It helps the seniors in getting the job done on their terms. A Professional Organizer with experience in working with seniors can also help in planning out the move and help in the design of the new home to be sure that everything fits and that everything has a place. Not everyone has the luxury of taking time off of work to spend a few weeks helping their parents with this process. And when they do have the time off it's better spent on visiting instead of decluttering and packing.
Start early. Take your time. Declutter without the stress of a move, before the move.
Think about it....and start decluttering......
Organizational Consulting Services
www.organizationalconsultingservices.com
Why not start thinking about it years before you are ready? That way there is no rush, no pressure.
If you give yourself plenty of time you can make the decisions about your belongings at your own pace instead of having to decide what to get rid of as the moving truck is pulling up.
The first and most important part of any move and downsizing is the decluttering. Start going through each of your rooms and decide what you can get rid of.
And of course, that means, donate or give away (for the most part). If you haven't used it or don't want to take it with you, put it in the "donate" box.
One thing that you will also want to start thinking about is the size of your new home. If you have a four bedroom home now and want to downsize to a one or two bedroom home you will have a lot of things to get rid of.
Don't think that you have to get rid of the entire extra room. You can pick or choose pieces from each room that will go into your new home. Only take the things that you really love or that are functional.
Start thinking about giving away things to your loved ones now, when they can enjoy them. Why wait until after you are gone so that you won't be able to share in their happiness? It might sound morbid, but it makes sense. You know that you love to see the look on their faces when you give them presents for their birthdays or holidays.
By taking control of your own decluttering now, when you are not in a rush, you will be much calmer and more rational. Trust me, moving is not a fun process. Take the stress out of it by planning ahead and decluttering on your terms.
For many children that live away from their elderly parents it sometimes helps to have someone, such as a Professional Organizer help with this transition. It helps the seniors in getting the job done on their terms. A Professional Organizer with experience in working with seniors can also help in planning out the move and help in the design of the new home to be sure that everything fits and that everything has a place. Not everyone has the luxury of taking time off of work to spend a few weeks helping their parents with this process. And when they do have the time off it's better spent on visiting instead of decluttering and packing.
Start early. Take your time. Declutter without the stress of a move, before the move.
Think about it....and start decluttering......
Organizational Consulting Services
www.organizationalconsultingservices.com
Monday, May 21, 2012
Moving - How to Protect Your Possessions
Moving - How to Protect Your Possessions
It’s that time of year where a lot of families move. The kids are almost out of school. You can slowly start packing up your house and dream about your new home.
But before you get too happy you need to protect yourself and your possessions. Even the most organized people have lost valuable possessions in a move. Once you let your possessions out of your sight and into the hands of “professional movers" you have lost control.
When you are searching for a moving company you need to do your due diligence, read the fine print and demand references. The companies are always nice before your move, but once they pick up your furniture it’s a different story.
There are a number of things that you can do.
1) Make a list of everything that you are packing and where it is packed. Yes, this is time consuming but this will help to protect you should the unthinkable happen (lost boxes).
2) Take pictures of everything. Close up pictures to show the condition of the items.
3) Gather all of your receipts for any big ticket items or anything of value. If your possessions are lost or damaged the moving company will demand receipts before they pay for the damage. Oh, you bought that couch five years ago and don’t have the receipt? Too bad!
4) If you are packing yourself here’s a newsflash – the moving company won’t believe you when you tell them that you packed (whatever – of value) in a box that was lost. Since they did not pack it, they will not reimburse you.
5) When the movers hand you the papework to sign when they are loading the truck….look over the paperwork very, very carefully. Question every single tick mark on the paper. Don’t let them intimidate you into signing the paperwork unless you know what every single mark means. Believe me, you will regret it later if you do.
People think that packing themselves saves money, but if anything is lost you will have a terrible time trying to get compensated by the moving company.
Mayflower is a great example of a moving company that will not reimburse you for anything that you packed yourself because they will say that you have to prove that it was actually in the box.
The major problem with moving is that it is very stressful, even if you are totally organized.
By starting early and leaving yourself plenty of time to get your home de-cluttered and packed you will save yourself a lot of stress. Don't try to cram all of your packing into a few days.
Before you pack it....ask yourself:
"Have you used it, worn it or even remembered that you had (insert name of item) it in the last year?"
If the answer is "no".... re-think packing the item. Why take clutter with you to your new home?
Even if you aren't planning on moving for another year....start thinking about the processs as early as possible. You will save yourself a lot of headaches!
Happy Moving!
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Monday, May 14, 2012
Organizing Your Kids Summer Activities
Summertime, kids out of school, vacations are all fast approaching. You might think it’s far away, but your kids, believe me, they are thinking about summer vacations already.
If you are able to go away on vacation get your kids involved in planning it. Let them come up with some ideas on things to do. If they are old enough, put them in charge of planning the activities. This teaches them how much work is involved and also empowers them to make their vacation their own.
Let them come up with a list of things to pack. Make sure to look it over and make sure that it’s reasonable and that they did not miss anything. It also teaches them to work within restrictions – such as airline weight restrictions or car room restrictions. No, they can’t take every single toy on vacation.
If you are not going away on vacation you can still plan plenty of activities to keep your children occupied.
Let them help come up with a list of things that they want to see or do in your city. Museums, the zoo, the beach are all fun activities. They can also plan “day trips” to places a bit further away. From planning on what to pack for lunches and what they will see and do.
By letting them help plan these activities it gives them ownership of their own “fun” and makes them understand how much everyone counts on them for planning a great vacation or activity.
By involving your kids in the planning stages they will be more likely to enjoy their summer. And if they don’t come up with any ideas – oh well, I guess they will be bored! And it will be their own fault.
Empower your kids at a young age to help plan their summer and you will not only have happier children who think the plans were all “their idea” but you won’t have to come up with ideas all on your own that the kids will whine about.
Summer is not about keeping your kids busy….but it’s about teaching them valuable lessons that they can take with them as they grow up.
It’s never too early to teach your kids organizational skills. And they can have fun as they are learning.
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